Whew… can we be honest today?
So many of us were handed the keys to adulthood with zero instructions.
They said, “You grown now!” and just expected us to know how to file taxes, manage emotions, cook a decent meal, andnavigate relationships that don’t feel like emotional landmines.
And sure, we got the basics—maybe someone taught you how to make a budget or wash your clothes. But nobody told us how to cope with rejection, manage anxiety, or set boundaries with family members who still call you “fast” for speaking your mind.
🧠 The Real Curriculum of Adulthood
Adulthood is a crash course in:
- Emotional regulation when life starts lifing
- Saying “no” without explaining yourself to everyone’s cousin
- Being your own advocate in rooms where you feel small
- Choosing peace over people-pleasing
- Unlearning hustle as a personality trait
You don’t just wake up one day and feel grown. You become grown by learning through the bruises, the breakthroughs, and the boundaries you were never taught to set.
✨ Tea Time Truth:
You’re not “failing” at adulthood—you’re just learning in real time what nobody ever explained. And that learning curve? It’s not a flaw. It’s part of your formation.
💭 Reflection Prompts:
- What’s something I pretended to know how to do because I was afraid to ask for help?
- What’s one “adulting” skill I want to build—not for performance, but for peace?
- Where do I still carry shame for not having it “all together”?
💡 Final Word
Let’s stop pretending adulthood is all vision boards and matcha lattes. Sometimes it’s crying in your car, Googling how to register your car, setting boundaries with your auntie, and choosing to rest without guilt.
You don’t need to know it all. You just need to stay curious, stay grounded, and keep choosing to show up for the woman you’re becoming.
Tomorrow’s problems won’t scare you when you’re rooted in truth today.
See you next week for more Tea & Truth.
Until then, drink your water—and maybe read the fine print on that lease, sis.
With clarity & care,
Coach G
@ProvokeChange
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