Chiiiiiile
Listen.
There’s a very specific kind of chaos that lives in your early 20s.
It’s the “I’m grown, but also Googled how to boil rice yesterday” kind of chaos.
It’s the “Am I aligned with my higher self or just ignoring red flags again?” type confusion.
One day you’re on Pinterest mapping out your life like a vision board baddie. The next, you’re crying over a text that said “k” and wondering if mercury is perpetually in retrograde. (Spoiler: it’s not. You’re just evolving.)
Welcome to the Mirror and Model era—the season of life where you’re simultaneously watching yourself become and trying to find someone worth learning from.
🪞 Mirror: When You’re Forced to Face Yourself
The mirror phase is no joke. It’s that unfiltered, 3 a.m., “Whew… so this is who I’ve been?” moment.
And it’s necessary.
Because no growth happens without a little reflection. The mirror holds up the truth:
- You attract what you believe you deserve.
- You keep patterns that feel familiar—even when they’re harmful.
- You sometimes shrink because expansion feels foreign.
And sis, that’s okay. Self-awareness is not self-condemnation. It’s self-liberation.
Once you look in the mirror without flinching, you unlock the ability to shift.
🧠 Mirror Moment Check-In:
Ask yourself:
- Who am I when no one is watching?
- What patterns am I currently practicing that my future self won’t be able to afford?
- If my younger self saw me now, what would she say?
Use your reflection to inform, not shame. Growth is not perfection—it’s observation turned into intention.
🧍🏾♀️ Model: Looking for Something Solid to Stand On
Let’s be honest—your 20s can feel like a scavenger hunt for role models who actually reflect your values, struggles, and softness. Not everyone who looks confident is actually equipped. Not everyone older is automatically wise. And not every “influencer” has influence you should follow.
So how do you find your models? You start by becoming one.
Model behavior is modeled when you live it.
That means:
- Choosing authenticity over approval
- Asking for help and not romanticizing struggle
- Leading yourself gently even when no one else is clapping
You can look to mentors, friends, or even fictional characters. But the goal is to find reflections that remind you who you are—not who you should pretend to be.
🛠️ Tips to Navigate the Mirror & Model Season
- Define success for yourself
Not Instagram. Not your family. Not your degree. YOU.
Is it peace? Creativity? Freedom? Design your life around that. - Protect your becoming
Stop sharing every vulnerable moment online. Some growth needs to happen in sacred privacy. That’s not hiding—it’s healing. - Curate your environment like your playlist
If it’s chaotic, negative, or full of low-vibrational noise—skip it. Protect your peace like it pays rent. - Celebrate micro-wins
Got out of bed when your anxiety said no? That counts. Chose rest instead of chasing validation? That counts too. - Mentor yourself daily
Journal. Pray. Talk to future-you. Leave voice notes. Be your own elder in training.
💭 Final Word: Your Journey Is Valid—Even in the Mess
You are both the mirror and the model.
You are both discovering and demonstrating.
You are allowed to be a masterpiece and a work-in-progress.
So if you’re fumbling a little right now, overthinking texts, stretching your paycheck, and trying to meditate while your notifications are going off—breathe.
You’re not failing. You’re forming.
And while you’re at it? Honor the version of you who still shows up, even in uncertainty. That girl? She’s sacred. She’s raw. She’s real.
And one day, someone will model their becoming after watching you navigate yours.
With reverence and a raised eyebrow,
Coach G
@ProvokeChange
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