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What They Don’t Tell You About Being “Grown”

Chiiiile… So you’re grown now, huh? You’re paying bills, buying your own toilet paper, swiping left on dating apps, and pretending to understand your 401(k) options. You’re setting boundaries, but still low-key flinching when people test them. And don’t even get started on family group chats and “So when are you settling down?” energy. Here’s…

Coach C. Gresham
2–3 minutes

Chiiiile…

So you’re grown now, huh?

You’re paying bills, buying your own toilet paper, swiping left on dating apps, and pretending to understand your 401(k) options. You’re setting boundaries, but still low-key flinching when people test them. And don’t even get started on family group chats and “So when are you settling down?” energy.

Here’s the tea:
Being grown is less about having it all together—and more about learning how to hold yourself through what falls apart.

🎭 The Myth of Grown-Up Glamour

They made adulthood look like freedom.
They didn’t mention:

  • The decision fatigue
  • The deep loneliness that sometimes comes with independence
  • The weight of trying to heal while still being needed
  • The weird grief that shows up when old dreams die off quietly

Grown isn’t just bills and brunches.
It’s building the version of you that no one else has ever modeled.

🛠️ Life Coaching Truths to Hold You Steady

Let’s reframe what grown really means.

💡 Being grown means…

  • Choosing alignment over approval
  • Knowing when to rest instead of prove
  • Admitting when you need help and asking for it
  • Taking up space without shrinking to be digestible

Grown isn’t perfect—it’s practiced.
It’s failing, adjusting, and returning to your values again and again.

🖤 Tea to Sip On This Week:

If you’re feeling overwhelmed by all the things you should be doing by now, here’s your truth:

You don’t owe anyone a polished version of your process.
You are allowed to be grown and growing at the same time.

💭 Reflection Prompts:

  • What part of “being grown” feels the most confusing or heavy right now?
  • Am I showing up for my future self—or just surviving the day?
  • What can I unlearn this week to make space for peace?

💡 Final Word

You don’t have to be perfect.
You just have to be present.
You just have to show up for the version of you that’s tired—but still trying.

This grown woman journey?
It’s layered. It’s sacred. It’s yours.

Keep going.
Keep laughing.
Keep healing.

We’ll sip more truth next Tuesday.
Until then, walk like you’re the answer to a prayer. Because you are.

With love and realness,
Coach G
@ProvokeChange
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