Chiiiile, Please!

Let’s go ahead and clear the air—once and for all.

Not every woman’s joy is wrapped in a crib, a wedding band, or a “We’re expecting!” announcement. Some women are thriving with a solo passport, a paid-off car, and a peace that don’t play about itself. And no, it doesn’t mean they’re lonely, bitter, or waiting for someone to come “complete” them.

Some of us? We’re not chasing the timeline.
We’re choosing our terms.
And that, my dear, is liberation.

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For far too long, womanhood has been presented like a checklist.
Graduate, marry, birth, repeat.
The culture tells us that if you haven’t fulfilled these expected milestones by 35 or 40, you’re somehow incomplete or behind. Even well-meaning folks will say things like, “You still have time,” or “You’ll be such a good mother one day,” as if your current wholeness is just a placeholder.

But let’s be radically honest: There is no single blueprint for fulfillment.
You can be a nurturing, full-hearted, legacy-leaving woman without ever raising a child or sharing a bed.
You can mother movements.
Birth ideas.
Raise the vibration of your community.

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There is power in saying, “This life I’ve built—this rhythm I’ve found—it’s enough for me.”
Whether you chose not to have children, couldn’t have them, or never found the right timing or partner to pursue it, your joy is still valid. You don’t need to add anything to your life to make it worthy of celebration.

And truth be told? Freedom is its own form of fertility.

Freedom to sleep in. To travel when you want. To pour into your passions, friendships, and faith without the emotional labor of explaining yourself.
Freedom to explore your creativity, tend to your body, and stretch your soul.
Freedom to know yourself without interruption.

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Now this isn’t about comparison or superiority. It’s not saying one path is better. It’s about giving yourself permission to love the life you’re actually living, not the one others keep suggesting you should want.

So tonight, ask yourself:

• What narratives about womanhood or motherhood am I still holding onto—and are they even mine?
• What brings me joy right now, without delay, pressure, or apology?
• What part of my life deserves more celebration than I’ve given it?

Write about it. Sit with it.
And remind yourself that peace—sustained peace—is proof of alignment.

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You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your joy.
You don’t have to shrink your sparkle to make others comfortable.
You don’t need to manufacture struggle to prove you’re evolving.

You are not waiting on a new chapter—you are the story.

So live boldly. Love freely. Laugh loudly.
And if anybody asks why you’re so unbothered, just tell them:
“Because I stopped performing for a blueprint that was never mine.”

With joy that’s rooted,
Coach G
@ProvokeChange
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