Balancing Life, Friendships, Relationships — and Knowing When to Just Sit With Yourself
Chiiiile, let’s be real today — because some of y’all are stretched too damn thin trying to do it all, be it all, and show up for everybody at once. You’re juggling work, family, friendships, relationships, dreams, healing, side hustles, and somehow still trying to make space for peace. And baby, if you’re honest? You’re tired. You’re smiling, but you’re worn out. You’re showing up, but you’re running on fumes.
Here’s your Tea & Truth for today: balance isn’t about doing everything — it’s about knowing when to step back and sit with yourself.
We love to romanticize “having it all,” but let me tell you as a life and relationship coach who’s sat with countless people burning themselves out — having it all means knowing what’s yours to carry and what’s not. It means knowing that you can love your friends and still say, “I can’t pour today.” It means knowing you can be in a relationship and still need space to breathe, to check in with YOU, to hear your own thoughts without the noise of another person’s wants or needs.
The hardest part? Sitting with yourself when everything in you wants to fill the silence. Because chile, let’s be real — it’s easy to stay busy so you don’t have to face your own stuff. It’s easy to keep texting, planning, scrolling, showing up so you don’t have to listen to what your spirit is trying to tell you. But hear me: if you’re always escaping into connection, you’re missing the healing that only solitude can bring.
Sometimes the most radical form of balance is saying, “I love y’all, but I need to be with me today.”
It’s recognizing when your soul is parched. When you’re snappy not because you’re mean, but because you’re empty. When you’re restless not because life is wrong, but because you’ve neglected your own presence. Balance doesn’t come from squeezing more into your days — it comes from making room for stillness, even when it’s uncomfortable.
So tonight, I want you to sit with this: Where am I overextending out of habit, guilt, or fear? Where am I terrified to pause because I don’t want to face my own loneliness or unmet needs? And what would it look like to carve out space for myself — not as a luxury, but as a non-negotiable?
Baby, you don’t owe anyone a constant version of you. You’re allowed to rest. You’re allowed to unplug. You’re allowed to choose you without apology. That’s not selfish — that’s sacred.
With fierce love + a soft hand on your shoulder,
Coach G
@ProvokeChange
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