Chiiiile… let me tell you something only living will teach you: it takes guts to become the woman God called you to be. Not confidence. Not vibes. Not aesthetic. Guts. It takes holy courage to break free from the performance, from the pressure, and from the prison of who you thought you had to be — just so you can finally show up as the woman you were created to become.
By the time you hit your 40s, life has handed you some stuff. You’ve survived disappointment, letdowns, love that hurt, and silence that healed. You’ve poured into others so long you almost forgot how to fill your own cup. And somewhere in all of that, you picked up beliefs about who you had to be — quiet, agreeable, self-sacrificing, always strong, never too much. You wore those masks until they started to suffocate you. Until you looked in the mirror and whispered, “There has to be more.”
And baby, there is. But here’s the truth: to become her — the real you — you’re going to have to let some things die.Your old narratives. Your people-pleasing habits. Your attachment to titles, roles, and timelines. You’re going to have to disappoint a few folks. You’re going to have to stop explaining yourself, stop shrinking, and stop making your calling palatable for people who were never meant to carry it with you.
Becoming her isn’t about becoming new. It’s about becoming honest.
It’s about returning to what God planted in you before the world told you who to be.
It’s about saying, “I choose me — not the me that made everyone else comfortable, but the me that makes God proud.”
So tonight, I want you to sit with this: Where have I been performing instead of living? What version of myself am I finally ready to lay down? And what would it feel like to show up as the woman I was divinely designed to be — even if it shakes things up?
✍🏽 Journal Prompt
What masks am I still wearing to feel safe, accepted, or needed?
What do I believe I have to “be” for others that I no longer want to carry?
Who is the woman I know I’m becoming — and what will she no longer tolerate?
💛 Affirmation
I have the courage to unbecome who I had to be and become who I was born to be.
I am no longer performing for approval. I am walking in alignment with truth.
I am her — even when it’s uncomfortable, even when it’s quiet, even when it costs me.
🙏🏾 Closing Prayer
God, thank You for the wisdom that comes with time and the boldness that grows with healing.
Help me shed every false identity, every role I clung to for survival, and every mask I wore to be accepted.
Show me who I am in You. Guide me as I become the woman You whispered into existence when You created me.
Give me peace when I let go, and give me power when I rise.
I am ready to be her. I am ready to be me. Amen.
With wisdom earned + a bold yes to becoming,
Coach G
@ProvokeChange
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