Title: Handle Yourself Accordingly — When You’re Triggered
Dearest Gentle Healers
Chiiiile… let me talk to you — and to me — for a second, because this one right here? Whew. God has been dealing with me. Heavy.
I’ve been listening to a sermon by Pastor Michael Todd, and he said something that hit me in my chest: sometimes we’re not offended — we’re being corrected. And baby, when I tell you I had to pause the sermon and sit in that… because it’s one thing to shout “Amen!” when correction is for somebody else. But it’s another thing entirely when the Holy Spirit starts tapping you on the shoulder.
This past week, I caught myself getting triggered by a few things — conversations, moments, even certain people — and before I reacted, I heard that still, small voice say, “Pause. Don’t respond. Reflect.” It made me realize that being triggered isn’t just about what someone said or did… it’s about what it touched inside of me. And if I’m really walking in healing, in purpose, and in growth, I can’t just keep reacting — I have to start reflecting.
And listen — I get it. This inner work stuff is not easy. It takes humility to admit when we’re wrong. It takes maturity to pause before we pop off. And it takes spiritual discipline to receive correction from God without running from it. Sometimes He uses uncomfortable moments to reveal where we still need to heal. That’s not punishment — that’s preparation.
But here’s the part that stings and soothes at the same time: growth doesn’t always feel good, but it’s always necessary. When we learn to slow down and ask ourselves, “Why am I really triggered?” — that’s when healing starts to take root. Because the truth is, our triggers are teachers. They show us where we’re still tender, where we still need grace, and where we’ve got to stop letting old wounds bleed on new seasons.
So, this letter right here? It’s not just a moment — it’s the start of a series. I’m calling it “Handle Yourself Accordingly,”because that’s exactly what we’re gonna learn to do — together. To catch correction, process emotion, and move through triggers without losing ourselves in them. Because yes, we’re human… but we’re also healing. And it’s time we start walking like it.
This is your reminder — and mine — to slow down before reacting, to pray before responding, and to let God show you what He’s really trying to teach you through the trigger. Because correction is not rejection. It’s refinement.
With love, truth, and the kind of grace that doesn’t sugarcoat,
– Coach G 💛
Keep becoming. Keep choosing you.
✍🏾 Journal Prompt:
- What has triggered me lately, and why do I think it hit so deeply?
- How do I usually respond to correction — from others or from God?
- What does “handling myself accordingly” look like for me in this season?
💛 Affirmation:
I receive correction with grace.
I pause before reacting and reflect before responding.
My triggers no longer control me — they teach me.
🙏🏾 Prayer:
Father, thank You for loving me enough to correct me. Help me to see my triggers not as weapons, but as lessons. Teach me to slow down, breathe, and respond with wisdom. When I’m tempted to react out of old wounds, remind me that You’re still healing me. Give me a heart that can receive correction, and a spirit humble enough to grow from it. In Jesus’ name, amen.
Chiiiile, Please! 
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