Title: Handle Yourself Accordingly: Being Honest About Your Triggers
Dearest Gentle Healers,
Chiiiile… whew. If last week’s letter had us pausing before we reacted, this week’s letter? It’s about what happens afterthe pause — that quiet, sometimes uncomfortable space called honesty. The space where you stop pointing fingers, take a deep breath, and finally say, “Okay, it’s me too.”
I’ve been sitting with myself this week — no distractions, no spiritual sugarcoating — just honesty. And baby, that’s hard work. It’s one thing to recognize that you’re triggered. It’s another to admit why. To face the thought, the memory, or the wound that sits underneath the reaction. That takes courage. And I had to remind myself that self-awareness is not self-criticism — it’s self-compassion. Because the truth is, sometimes we’re not broken — we’re just bruised in places that never fully healed.
See, being honest with yourself about your triggers isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom. It’s how you grow. It’s how you stop letting your emotions run your decisions and start letting your discernment lead. There’s strength in saying, “I’m not okay right now,” or “That situation still hurts me more than I thought.” That’s not failure — that’s healing in motion.
And here’s something else I had to learn — reaching out for help doesn’t make you less spiritual, less strong, or less independent. It makes you human. Sometimes God’s answer to your prayer for healing isn’t a moment of revelation — it’s a person He sends to help you process. Whether that’s a therapist, a pastor, a mentor, or a trusted friend — help is holy when it’s aligned with healing. Don’t let pride or fear convince you that isolation equals strength. Healing happens in community.
I know it’s not easy. It takes humility to sit down and say, “Lord, show me me.” Because that’s when He starts peeling back layers — not to shame you, but to free you. Every time you choose honesty over avoidance, you take a step toward freedom. And every time you choose help over hiding, you build the strength to handle yourself with more grace the next time that trigger comes around.
So this week, I want you to make a promise to yourself — no more avoiding, no more numbing, no more pretending you’re fine when you’re really not. Be honest with yourself. Be honest with God. And when it feels like too much to handle alone, reach out. Because you don’t have to carry healing by yourself — that’s what community, prayer, and grace are for.
We’re in this together, sis. Healing, learning, and growing one honest moment at a time.
With love, truth, and the kind of grace that doesn’t sugarcoat,
– Coach G 💛
Keep becoming. Keep choosing you.
✍🏾 Journal Prompt:
- What truth about my triggers am I ready to face this week?
- What emotions or memories do I need to process instead of suppress?
- Who or what resources can I reach out to for support in my healing journey?
💛 Affirmation:
I am brave enough to face my truth.
I am worthy of healing, support, and peace.
Honesty with myself is the first step to my freedom.
🙏🏾 Prayer:
Father, thank You for Your patience as I learn to be honest with myself. Help me to see truth as a pathway to healing, not shame. Give me the strength to face my triggers with courage and grace. Lead me to the people and resources that can support my growth. Remind me that asking for help doesn’t make me weak — it makes me wise. Heal the parts of me that still ache, and teach me to handle myself with love and truth. In Jesus’ name, amen.
Chiiiile, Please! 
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